More info on Baby…
I loved reading through your comments on yesterday’s post! I knew you all would be very understanding and able to “read between the lines” with what I couldn’t explain about the situation. Several of you left a personal message for Roomie that will mean a lot to her as we go along. She read through them tonight and tried to leave a comment to tell you all how much you meant to her but is having a few technical problems. When we get settled in, I bet I’ll be able to convince her to do a guest post so you can hear a bit directly from her.
Your messages to me meant a lot, too. I don’t want you to think I think highly of myself because I’m doing this for Roomie. I would never want to come across that way.
I got several questions from both the comments and personal emails, so I thought I’d try to answer them here as my blog email address still won’t let me email any of you back!
1. The most frequent question you asked me: How can we help?
So many of you emailed me privately to ask if you can send something to Roomie — I was floored by your response to her situation. She’s arriving here tomorrow night and, because she’s on her own for the move, she’s only bringing her clothes — she couldn’t lift anything else nor fit it in her car. With that said, I’ve made arrangements for her bedroom furniture and things of that nature. We also have a crib, changing table and stroller/car seat coming from various sources. I think the best way for those of you who want to help out would be for me to take Roomie to make a baby registry under a false name and then give you that information (she currently has no registery or anything of that nature due to some particular aspects of her situation). I, of course, started stocking up months ago — long before I knew she would be living with me. So I have a few basic things — mainly clothes and a couple of blankets. She and I are going to work on getting more of the stuff she’ll need over the coming weeks as she gets stable here. In other words, weekly paycheck = small weekly trip to Babies ‘R Us. 
While I would never dream of asking you to provide anything for her, I’ll post the registry information for those of you who specifically asked about it.
2. Is it a boy or a girl?
We know the sex, but won’t be able to post it for some private reasons related to her situation. This may change in the future, but for now, it isn’t the safest thing for us to do.
3. Are you going to be in the room with her when she gives birth?
I laughed at this one because she and I were on the phone for awhile last night imagining what it will be like for me to be in there with her. I guess we’re both assuming that I’ll be in there for most of the time, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it. I will be doing all of the “coaching classes” (or whatever you call it!) with her as well as the tour of the hospital and so forth. I’ve also started reading What To Expect When You’re Expecting. And, you know, practicing late night runs to get ice cream and pickles.
4. How are you adjusting to the idea of your home life changing?
I think I’m adjusting pretty well. I’m a little overwhelmed right now, but mainly just because I’ve started looking at the “big picture” — finding a doctor, changing over her insurance, etc. I’ve just been trying to get as much done for Roomie as she can think of at this point, especially since she hasn’t been here to set all of that up. I’m not that worried about overstepping boundaries at this point, mainly because Roomie wants all the help she can get. I’m betting that sentiment will carry over to changing dirty diapers, too.
5. So, you and your previous roommate, Katie — you left on good terms?
Absolutely. I just obviously couldn’t explain everything to you back then. Katie is going to be taking a more active role in Starlite this fall than she was able to commit to last spring, so she and I will be spending a lot of time together in the office.
6. Can we see pictures of the new house?
I’ve got a few pictures of the inside, but I’m not putting up outside ones for safety’s sake. I will tell you this, though, about the outside of the house — everyone I’ve taken to the house so far actually gasps when we pull into the driveway. The outside of it is just gorgeous.
Here’s a peek at the inside:
I’ll post more pictures over the weekend as we start the move-in process. Speaking of that, if you’re a strapping young man — preferably single, of course — and would like to lift heavy furniture, feel free to give me a call on My Cellular Device.
Somehow I just don’t think that Imaginary Boyfriend is gonna come through for me this time.
Posted: July 17th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
Comments: 21
Comments
Comment from Jennifer Miles
Time: July 17, 2008, 9:54 pm
The place is PRETTY!!!
Comment from Dawn
Time: July 17, 2008, 9:58 pm
Well, I don’t know if Roomie cooks, but I am sure that eating good foods is important whilst carrying a baby (sorry, I couldn’t resist).
If I can help by making some meals, either before or after the baby comes, I’d be glad to do so. I love to cook and making stuff that freezes and reheats well is easier than it seems.
Let me know if I can help in any way.
Comment from Tami
Time: July 17, 2008, 10:36 pm
AB, you just went up about 20 bizallion points in my book. You were pretty high up there to begin with — “A friend loves at all times”… rock on sister!!
Comment from Lauren
Time: July 17, 2008, 11:22 pm
I agree with Tammy and it is REALLY neat to be in the delivery room while a baby is being born. I remember when my sister was born and I was in the room! (I also had the amazing priviledge of being the first one to hold her hand! )
Comment from Kim
Time: July 17, 2008, 11:30 pm
Please do post registry info. I would love to help out.
Comment from debbie d.
Time: July 17, 2008, 11:36 pm
for someone who always has way too many questions (I’m talking about myself here)…I appreciate your attentiveness to her situation and everyone’s safety and will promise to reign in the questions! BUT! we all expect to be notified the MOMENT the baby registries at Target, Walmart and BabiesRUs are up and running…and yes, I think you should register at all three…
Comment from Sherilyn
Time: July 17, 2008, 11:40 pm
I’m currently gasping at your built-in-bookcases! I think I’d buy a house just for those! I think what you are doing for Roomie is wonderful & I’m sure she really, really appreciates all you are doing for her. I’m sure I’m not the only one who wishes I lived closer to you to be able to help the two of you settle in.
Comment from clay
Time: July 18, 2008, 12:10 am
i am a strapping young man, but alas, i’m in another state and with gas at $4.30 here it is not feasible to make the long drive.
am i the only guy that ever comments on this blog?
Comment from Beth
Time: July 18, 2008, 1:31 am
I would consider it a blessing to be able to help Roomie with whatever I can once you post her registry. Please let Roomie know she has more friends “out here” than she knows. And your new place is gorgeous!
Comment from Mel
Time: July 18, 2008, 2:44 am
I don’t visit for a while and look what happens… never a dull moment in your oh so fabulous life. Excited for you girls, it will be like a new little family. It is a new little family in fact. LOVE your new place, looks light and bright and gorg.
Comment from Theresa
Time: July 18, 2008, 8:26 am
Absolutely love the house!!! You amaze me at your goodness and grace, I have only been reading a few short months but girl you are one of my heroes. Consider it good, the only other one is my MOM LOL … It takes someone special to do what you are doing for Roomie and Baby and God surely will bless you. He already has..
Being in the delivery room is an awesome thing!! The miracle of birth is spectacular to watch, even more so sometimes I think then actually having the baby yourself, you get to see things from a different view.. hee hee…
I agree with Debbie D. You must register at all 3 places.
Comment from Mandy
Time: July 18, 2008, 9:58 am
Absolutely do all 3 registries. Walmart is much more affordable for the basics like diapers & such.
I have a special gift that will require an embroidered name. Do either of you know how to embroider? Not sure if you’re giving out the baby’s name or not.
Comment from heatherb.
Time: July 18, 2008, 11:48 am
AB & Roomie,
I’ve been the girl trying to do my best with a big baby tummy and no ring on my finger. Fear, excitement, wonder (how did I get myself into THIS?) and absolute joy all rolled into one. It’s something to feel God’s love and forgiveness–especially when you’re not sure you deserve it and those around you are not so understanding! Well, that’s my story, not necessarily yours, but I remember and I understand and I know you will be and are being blessed. That’s one lucky baby…so much love and not even born yet! Take care, you’re in my prayers as well.
Comment from Ronnica
Time: July 18, 2008, 1:32 pm
Thank you for getting involved in Roomie’s life. You are in a position to be such a blessing to her and her lil one! I’m excited for the days and weeks you have ahead!
Comment from Nate B
Time: July 18, 2008, 2:07 pm
beautiful house! i’d be up to help move if i wasn’t on the other side of the state. hope everything goes well! you’re definitely a blessing to your new roomie.
Comment from Kelley
Time: July 18, 2008, 3:11 pm
Shopping online registry = looking like I’m doing actual work.
Just tell us when and where!
Comment from amykay
Time: July 18, 2008, 4:30 pm
registries are a GREAT idea! there are so many people who want to love Baby and Roomie any way we can… please don’t be afraid to ask for help, even from random blog readers, even for big things that seem impossible to give! this may be a weird, random, spread-out community, but it’s still a community that wants to love, support, and pray! (and buy cute cute baby things. obviously.)
Comment from Marla Taviano
Time: July 18, 2008, 8:08 pm
Amy Beth, this just thrills my soul! My heart is bursting at the thought of you loving on Roomie and her baby–and getting an education all at the same time! Praise the Lord–He is so incredible!!
Can I send you a gift for Roomie? It’s my latest book–Changing Your World One Diaper at a Time. It’s all about the transition to mommyhood. I dedicated it to one of my precious single new-mommy friends. Maybe you should read it too!!
Let me know where I can send it! I’ll be praying for you three!
And I’m droooooooling over your new home! Wow.
Comment from Michelle Dierker
Time: July 19, 2008, 10:45 am
you’re incredible amybeth.
you never cease to blow me away by your love for the people in your life.
i would love to have access to the online registry if & when you post it. i go baby crazy & would LOVE to shop for you guys! there are also absolutely ADORABLE baby island clothes on guam that I’ve been sending to all of my friends who’ve had babies recently. so i’d love to do that for you too!
keep us posted.
i love your blog, & am thankful for the opportunity to know what’s going on in your life these days. i was so disappointed that i never spent more time with you in college, as you inspire me so much!!
have a wonderful weekend!
Comment from Lisa @ put-it-on-the-list
Time: July 21, 2008, 2:03 am
Love the new place, and would love to see a registry. I’m sure Roomie knows how blessed she and Baby are to have you in their lives.
Keeping the three of y’all in prayer.
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Comment from Jenn @ Casa de Castro
Time: July 17, 2008, 9:54 pm
If I could, I’d so come help you move! The house looks beautiful already, and I’m sure your decorative touches will make it feel like home quickly.
I LOVE the idea of a registry for Roomie and Baby. I bet Babies R Us would actually let you register her as “Roomie!” Whatever it turns out to be, I think it’s a great idea. We’d love to help and support, and that’s a tangible and practical way we can.
Will be praying for a smooth and uneventful move and for LOTS of strapping young men to show up to help.