Comments on: It’s a fetus update and it isn’t even Friday!

By: Christy

Christy — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 03:44:27 +0000

Amy,
My husband works for Penske and may be able to get you a truck super cheap to transfer Roomie’s stuff. You would just need someone to drive it. Let me know if we can help!

By: Kelli

Kelli — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 03:04:19 +0000

Well first off I would just like to tell you that I am JUST NOW FINISHING my 6 months old nursery. And she is just fine with it. Don’t let that part stress you out because it is such a small detail and he won’t even remember it! It’s easy to finish later.

My sister’s friend just had a baby and I don’t know Roomie’s story but I imagine that it could be along the same lines. And all I can say is that you are a God send to roomie. I know you are so scared right now and so is she. But that little man is blessed beyond belief that you will be there not only to look after him but to look after his mama. The support that you will be able to offer her as she says “I can’t do this” will mean so much. Because she can do it and so can you.

All I can say is cry if you need and let her cry when she can. It feels good to get it out. And I can almost guarantee that she knows she is not alone. Your love for her and that little boy RADIATES and you just keep on doing what you are doing!

By: Marla Taviano

Marla Taviano — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 01:23:36 +0000

Awww…praying for you, sweetie! And when you’re ready to do the Diapers book give-away, just let me know!

By: Brenda on the S OR Coast

Brenda on the S OR Coast — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 23:03:06 +0000

Hi Amy Beth ~ I found my way here from Lots of Scotts.

Having birthed six wee human beings myself, I can tell you that Roomie is very blessed to have you living there with her. I feel sure the two of you will navigate these waters with faith and love and patience. Before you know it, the three of you will have a comfy routine going and all of this will be just a memory. Picture yourself on the other side!

One thing that I have found helpful at the end of pregnancy is to take on some kind of project that I would like to finish before the baby is born. It helps the time seem to pass more quickly and keeps me focused in the moment. That last month of pregnancy does seem to last forever! Hang in there. Remind her to rest and pray and eat well.

Will you post your list of baby needs here, so that we can see if there are things we might be able to help with?

God bless you as you seek to serve Him with your life.

~Brenda

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 22:29:54 +0000

Amen to what all the other ladies have said! Being completely panicked at this stage of pregnancy is completely normal. When I had my daughter, I was so scared. Scared about the labor pain & if I could really handle it, scared about caring for a newborn & being responsible for another person, scared about how my life was going to be completely different, etc.

The key for Roomie (and you) is to allow yourself to feel those feelings. Have a good cry about it. Talk about it, if you can. Don’t bottle it up until you just explode. If Roomie has a hard time talking about it, have her write it in a journal – just to get it out & to clear her thoughts. No one has to read what she writes – it can be between her and God. She will feel better just letting it out.

As for the details, don’t worry about them so much. Things will fall into place. Baby will have all that he needs, because God is Jehovah Jireh. He supplies ALL our needs and then some!

By: Alicia

Alicia — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 20:55:44 +0000

Call anytime. Seriously. She is not alone.

By: Bethany

Bethany — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:15:38 +0000

You’ve read some of my thoughts about this road the three of you are on in a past Fetus Friday post… it won’t be easy. But every moment of it, even the mistakes, will be worth it.

Roomie may not be able to share everything with you right now. At this point in pregnancy the hormones are running rampant and she may be afraid that if she lets anything loose, she’ll drown in it.

As for the nursery… I know it would feel so much better to have everything prepared, but as Jeni said – what Baby will need from you and Roomie in the first few months is food, clean diapers and lots of love. None of that requires a fancy nursery and whether or not it gets finished before Baby arrives has NO bearing on how much he is loved.

By: Shara

Shara — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 18:56:48 +0000

Amy Beth, you are doing such an awesome thing supporting Roomie through this time. I think you need to understand that it’s ok to be scared. This is a really big deal, and it is understandable that both of you would be worried about lots of different things. I had my daughter when I was 17, and though our (me and Roomie) situations are different, I remember being so afraid the unknown. I trusted in God, too, but we’re just human. I think it’s natural.

With that being said, it’s going to be ok. Life is going to move on, one day at a time, and you both are going to be so amazed at what God is going to do. And I can’t wait to read about it!

By: Abby

Abby — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 18:26:47 +0000

Maybe it’s growing up Irish, but my mom always taught us celebrate the “bigs”. So big wins, big losses, big days, big mistakes… all of it requires celebration. Basically because big change marks the end of things as you know it. Life is too short for us to focus on the negatives…it’s easier to face the rough stuff with a party hat on. Hang in there momma! I can’t wait to see what fabulous thing is right around the corner for you, Roomie and Baby

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 18:21:55 +0000

Having been in Roomie’s situation, I could say more in response to this than probably you or anyone else here cares to sit and read. So out of respect for all the other readers who do not want to travel 5 pages over to get to the next comment, I won’t do that. I think my email address is connected with this comment. If you would like to call me, send me an email and I will give you my cell phone number. Talk to you later!