Comments on: Another question. I’m sorry, but yes, another question.

By: Diane

Diane — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 01:18:53 +0000

You are right on # 1.
# 2 is similar: How will I follow Him today?
Everything else follows.
Simple, but oh.so.true.

By: Kelly @ Love Well

Kelly @ Love Well — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 04:20:17 +0000

You’ve got some GREAT answers here, Amy Beth.

I’m going to go with the majority and say none of those questions are as important as this one: Are you going to believe God? (If you haven’t done that Beth Moore study yet, go directly to the store and get the book. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.)

We, as humans, often try our best to make wise choices in a mate, about our career, about when we’re going to have children. And I would say, 86% of the time (approximately), life does NOT turn out the way we planned. The mate we thought was a committed Christian? Runs off with another woman. The career we thought was fulfilling? Hits a dead-end wall. The children we just knew were perfect? Never come due to infertility.

There is SO MUCH out of our control. The biggest decision we can make daily is: Do I believe God IN THE MIDST of where I am right now?

By: Andrea Rosenmeier

Andrea Rosenmeier — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 04:20:10 +0000

Um, for the record, I just turned 25, thank you! But I’ll agree with most everyone else. I got married when I was 19 and it is amazing how much he affects my every decision, even ones I never thought he would. It’s a biggie.

By: Stacie@HobbitDoor

Stacie@HobbitDoor — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 23:04:50 +0000

I (and my husband agrees) think it’s not so much a question but a choice. What are you going to do with the fact that you’ve accepted Christ? If you live your life totally committed to Him, it will influence who you marry, what your career ends up being (and the fact that your work place will be your mission field and your paycheck there to fund HIS work not your life), if you have kids, how you raise them, etc. I think your relationship with God–choosing to have one and to be actively working out your salvation on a daily basis is the most important decision to make. All the others you make will flow out of and be influenced by that one. I think it is easy to get stuck on task questions–who to marry, what to do etc that we forget to work on who we are–character stuff that is harder to quantify. I’ll be praying as you wrestle through your questions.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 14:31:59 +0000

You got a lot of feedback on this one! I didn’t read them all, but I see a lot voting for marriage.

There were so many decisions that brought me where I am that it is hard to say one was most important… if I hadn’t gone to the college I went to, I wouldn’t have met the man I married. I don’t know if I felt like it was a “decision” about marrying Scott… it wasn’t as if I had to choose between several people. I knew the ones I wouldn’t marry; knew I would marry him. But- and Scott would agree with me here- if I hadn’t married him, I would have married another wonderful man. I’m not a subscriber to the “there is my soul mate out there for me and I have to find HIM.” I would have a different marriage, with different struggles and different blessings.

So, all that poorly worded stuff to say I’m going to go more along the lines of the next most important is more about you and God- will you trust Him; will you choose to live with joy in any circumstance simply because you have Him, etc.

You’ll have to let us know what your thoughts were after reading all your comments!

By: Kelli

Kelli — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 06:49:34 +0000

I am going to have to agree with marriage. My husband is the person that I will spend everyday of the rest of my earthly days with. Our marriage is the beginning of what shapes our future family. Choosing your husband is something that is so crucial and unfortunately at times in our society is taken too lightly. It is a HUGE important decision that matters more than the dream wedding. No point if you don’t marry the guy God intended for you!

By: Kristy

Kristy — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:12:07 +0000

I am going to agree that it is your spouse. You will spend the rest of your life with that person. It needs to be someone that you respect, like, enjoy being with, that is supportive and that you can support. He needs to put your needs first and you likewise for him. He needs to be someone who you trust completely. It is also important to remember that no matter who you choose, he is NOT perfect. He will sometimes fail but so will you. He also needs to share your faith and be able to lead your family in that faith. Does he study his bible on his own and share with you what he has learned. Does he pray with you and for you. Is he able to lead by example? These are all things that you need to think about when you are choosing your mate. If he isn’t doing them when your dating, he won’t do them when your married. Passion is great. Don’t get me wrong, I think it is a great component of marriage. But, if all you have is passion you will end up feeling alone. You will need a solid foundation of friendship, trust, respect, etc. I think if you have all of those things the passion part just comes naturally.

By: Chatty Kelly

Chatty Kelly — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:44:39 +0000

And I don’t know if I’m wiser, but I am definitely older. LOL!

By: Chatty Kelly

Chatty Kelly — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:43:29 +0000

I think after accepting Christ, the most important thing is to find YOUR WORTH in the fact that you are a child of God. If your worth is there, then it doesn’t matter (per se) who or if you marry or kids or your job or anything else, because you have found your worth as child of God. So if you accidentally marry a bum or if your perfect man leaves you, well, you are still a child of God. If you lose your job, still a child of God. If your child who you adore and love being the mom of dies, you are still a child of God. If you put your worth in anything else, it can go away, but child of God is forever. Everything else is just icing.

It’s very hard to live that way. But if you put your eggs in any basket other than God’s, you get broken eggs. A wonderful husband can be great, but he’s not God and he’s no savior. Don’t put your trust in Walt Disney, who said “Someday my prince will come.” Put your trust in God who said “Do not put your trust in princes, in mortal men, who cannot save you.” Psalm 146:3
Blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord his God. (Psalm 146:5)

By: Krista

Krista — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:36:36 +0000

That’s a tough one. And honestly, no, I don’t think the next most important thing is who you marry. I mean, yes, it’s way important (as in, don’t marry a “wrong” one, but I don’t believe there is just “one” right one. I could have married another guy if my life had been different and we hadn’t gone off to opposite sides of the world. It still would have been a right one, but it just didn’t happen) but I think there is something else that’s more important. That is, making sure YOU know what is important to you in life and why. Maybe even more, it’s knowing that you are complete the way you are. You CANNOT go through life thinking that a guy, or kids, or a career will be the answer. You WILL be disappointed. I know. I’m living that right now.
I haven’t read any of the other responses yet, but I’m trying to put into words what I’m feeling…
I think we spend too much time waiting for the “next thing”. I was so excited to graduate from college and then I found myself going “now what?” so I went back to college. Then I met my husband, but if I hadn’t I would have been right back at the “now what?” when I graduated. I did have some plans to go to Africa (on hold), but I think the thing we’re missing is the life we’re living right now. Do you regret the way you’re living right now? I don’t think so! So enjoy it!
It’s not wrong to want kids and marriage and/or a different career. But unless you’re feeling like what you’re doing now is just wrong then I’d say this is where God has you. Make the most of it because of course you have no way of knowing what tomorrow will bring.
Me, I’m working on being more intentional at spending time with my son. Getting down and playing with him rather than just brushing him off since I want to be online. Turning off my computer for an hour or two. He is way more important. I will miss this when he’s old enough to be in school.
Make your plans for the future, but be flexible! God has a way of changing things when you least expect it! (as in, I met and married my husband in 13 months and the first 4 months we were barely friends let alone dating!)
Sorry for the sermonette, I’m talking to myself here too! Hope it helps! You have to be happy with the life you have sometimes before God can add something else.