Comment from Victora
Time: June 17, 2009, 2:35 am

Amy Beth, my heart breaks for you and every girl like us. Maybe we don’t meet someone’s standards so they seek to break us down for it. But I think more often they see someone with something good inside them, a love inspired by the love of the Father who loves us more than any other.

Its also an attack from something more than a person. And as your sister in Christ, I cover you in prayer. Satan has no hold on you. You have been claimed Amy Beth, never let anyone take that from you. Your writings, filled with childlike love of life and refusal to let yourself be taken captive, have helped me emerge a little from my broken shell of sin and pain. God loves a daughter who is honest about her hurt and who doesn’t use that hurt to lash out but to help others to heal.

Amy Beth, you are beautiful.

Comment from Brittany
Time: June 17, 2009, 2:43 am

Amen, Victoria. Thanks for putting my thoughts into words. Praying for you, Amy Beth.

Comment from Krista
Time: June 17, 2009, 2:56 am

Ah Amy Beth. I don’t even know where to start… maybe here. I’m a married woman with a child… who’s not afraid to admit to peeing her pants from laughing! Of course some of that is from having said child, but it’s not really a deviation from the rest of my life anyway!

“Appearances” can be deceiving and I would say that whoever thinks you’re only “fluffy” as you appear in some posts on your blog isn’t trying to look very deep. You are deep and amazing in your deepness. You are also incredibly amazing in reaching out to people who are hurtful. That shows true maturity.

Please don’t ever lose your childlike spirit. You are all the better for it.
Love you lots!

Comment from Brandy T.
Time: June 17, 2009, 4:50 am

First, I love your blog content just the way it is. I think these funny little anecdotes allow us to come out from behind our walls, let down our hair, and pull up a chair… just in time for you to *smack* us with some heart-wrenching, thought-provoking God love.

Second, I am SO VERY PROUD of you for deciding to get out of that “pit” and treat yourself right, regardless of what the doctors say. I’m in this battle with you, and your strength is truly amazing!

Third, let me know if you need/want to chat. We can set up a Skype date.

Comment from Christy
Time: June 17, 2009, 5:29 am

((hug))

I cannot see for tears as I type this because I have been where you have been and at times where you are. I understand that condition you so heartbreakingly described. I understand that pit.

I am proud to know you Amy Beth, and while I do not know you IRL I know you have a beautiful heart, a compassionate spirit, and a loving soul. You show us here every day.

Thank you for being YOU. Just as HE created you to be. And no one can change that.

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.

1 Timothy 4:12

Keep doing what you are doing AB…It is a blessing far more than you will ever know.

Much love.

Comment from AliRae
Time: June 17, 2009, 5:57 am

I know you didn’t just post this so that we would feel bad and all jump in and tell you how beautiful you are. So I wanted to try and think of something different to say, something that would let you know I wasn’t just typing out the standard, knee-jerk response. But honestly, I can’t think of anything. My first thought when I saw that photo was “Crap! I can’t see her! I wanted to see how beautiful she looked!”

(My first thought when I read this post? Well, that’s just not something we type on a Christian ship.)

Comment from laura
Time: June 17, 2009, 6:36 am

AB, this is not a pity party, so I will try to restrain myself from adding my outrage/vehement disagreement regarding the comments you refer to. But I do want to say that as usual, your response has made me think hard about myself and my life and how I respond when someone has hurt me. I wish every day that I could be as thoughtful and sincere as you have been today, and not descend into defensiveness in such circumstances. And although it may not seem obvious at first, I think the pink polka dots and the pants-peeing stories show the same wonderful strength of yours – a willingness to let yourself be vulnerable rather than defensive, because of the blessing it is to others. And I hope, although I am not sure, that it is as good for you as it is for us.

Comment from Kelley
Time: June 17, 2009, 7:03 am

It’s really too bad we don’t know who wrote that comment….or rather maybe it’s a good thing since physically harming someone is against the law!
But seriously – keep being you. Don’t let this one person who has no manners change you or how you run your blog. God has designed you the way He wants you to be – and He knew what conditions and illnesses you would have and not have – and He loves you just the way you are! And I do, too!! I really wish we could sit and have a cup of coffee and get to know each other…too bad Guam is on the other side of the world!

Comment from Rebecca
Time: June 17, 2009, 7:26 am

I dont think people even realize how harmful & hurtful, & CRUEL they can be with words…

Dont let that one negative take you down… you are BEAUTIFUL!!! God’s daughter – how can anything not be beautiful about you!!!

Like I tell my “kids” – God will give them a bad day for that!

Comment from Lauren
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:25 am

I’m not even sure what to write, as I don’t want to give anyone ammunition for a “pity party,” but I will say that as a 26 year old, I love the content, style and overall theme of your blog. I find it hard to believe that someone misses the depth of so many of your posts, the way that your turn your “daily peeks” into a quick object lesson of God’s grace and mercy, or how you see His influence in your life. THAT is what I get from your writing–the pink polka dots are just for fun I also work with middle school/high school girls, and I think you have to appreciate the appeal of pink polka dots and pants-peeing stories to be able to be TRULY effective with them.
And I agree with Ali–I wanted to see a better picture of you in your dress!

Comment from Ronnica
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:27 am

I think your post and the post I put up today can remind us that WE DON’T KNOW AS MUCH AS WE THINK WE KNOW. We’re quick judgers…coming to a “complete” assessment within minutes, before we’ve had time to puruse even the bare facts that are available to us (let alone those that are beyond our knowledge). I think a big helping of grace towards each other would go a long way.

I know this’ll sound forced or something, but truly, ABB, you’re beautiful. I know you don’t often post pictures of yourself, but when you do, I think, “Oh, she’s so beautiful!” And that’s not to mention the greater inner beauty that exudes each and every post!

Comment from Bethany
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:28 am

I know too that you’re not just looking for accolades with this post so I’m just gonna say that I’m squarely in your corner and encourage you not to change a bit from who God has created you to be – which is beautiful inside and out!!

Comment from Lindsey
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:35 am

What a journey you have been on.

You are beautiful on the inside and out…and I for one am THRILLED that you posted a picture of yourself on the ole blog. You look GREAT!

Comment from Katy
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:37 am

Amy Beth…everytime I have come to your blog…I have found it fun and humorous! I think you do a great job with it! Everyone has a different style of writing…a different character. God made each of us different. Embrace who God made you to be and please continue to let your light shine.
I am so sorry that someone felt the need to be so cruel.

Sending big hugs through cyberspace to you!

Katy

Comment from Happy Geek
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:47 am

Words fail me.
Wish I could say something to erase the deep wounds that comment would cause.
I can’t.
Know this, He loves both of you with an everlasting love. He sent His son for both of you. He knows both of your hidden stuff and He holds both of you with His mighty hand.

Comment from k&c’s mom
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:05 am

My immediate reaction was “THAT MAKES ME SO MAD” and then I settled down when I realized how well you can already state your case in such a well-thought out form. You obviously have “done the work” in your heart and head and you’ve emerged a strong and beautiful (inside and out) young lady. I’m probably too old to say this (and my children your age would cringe) but YOU GO, GIRL! Your blog is a source of daily joy to me and many others because your attitude toward life is one of joy. Unlike SOME anonymous commenters…

Comment from Kelley
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:09 am

I know I should take the high road here, but good gravy….people like that just make me so angry. They hide behind being anonymous and say hurtful things. They think they’re being funny when really they are just down right mean.

Keep your chin up AB. You’re amazing & beautiful & to be honest, I think (from what I saw) you looked FAB in that dress.

Comment from Molly@ Growing In Grace
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:15 am

Oh Amy Beth,

This truly made my heart break. I for one, love your blog, and read it daily. You have inspired me with your writing, and joyful spirit! I’ll be praying for you. Even though I don’t know you in real life, what was said to you hurt me too. Not as much as it did you, but it hurt because I too have experienced “rejection” from guys because of my weight. I too have a condition that makes it difficult to lose weight, and possibly have children one day, it also makes my face think I’m 13 again so I deal with acne as well. Everything you wrote in this post hit home. Again, I am so, so, sorry. I’m praying that God will bless you with your heart’s desire, whatever that may be…

Comment from debbie d.
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:27 am

sissy, you are blessed to have so many gracious and merciful people comment on your blog because truthfully I just want to take anonymous and beat the daylights of him/her…

Comment from Melissa Dos Santos
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:28 am

Oh sweet Amy Beth – remember when you were just a young un in youth and people would be mean – you pulled yourself right back up by your boot straps and bounced along – bounce girl – bounce! Don’t validate this tool of the enemy anymore – shake the dust of it off your feet and press on to your next victory. Gaining weight for any reason is really hard for us as females – but look on the bright side – our bra size goes up too We met each other – what 10 – 15 years ago and I have never forgotten you or stopped caring. You touch everyone’s life you meet – in spite of adversity! The right mate is out there for you – I am believing with you that he is coming soon and will love you exactly the way you are and I am sure he will secretly love hot pink and polka dots <3

Love you,
Mrs. Dos Santos

Comment from Kelly @ Love Well
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:32 am

I am so furious right now … words fail me.

And that’s saying something.

Amy Beth, DO NOT LISTEN TO THE LIES. Turn away, girl. Bathe yourself in God’s truth.

I will be lifting my shield of faith over you today, dear heart. Many of us will.

(And can I just say — I want Missy on my side in every fight? Holy cow. I love that girl.)

Comment from Kate
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:39 am

Oh Amy Beth, my heart hurts for you. Reading your story was like reading mine. I want you to know you are not alone. I gained 70 pounds over the course of six months. Like you it took 3 doctors to finally discover the medical cause and also the realization I might never be able to have children on my own. I understand.

My husband is living proof that love isn’t based on looks, weight or anything on the surface. God has designed someone perfect for you and all of the other issues (having kids, money…) are handled one step at a time together. Keep walking on your journey of faith and your prince will come.

Comment from taryn in ny
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:43 am

Well.

You certainly handled that WAYYYYY better than I would have!

When people are hateful and cruel … it makes me really sick to my stomach because I realize after my initial reaction wares off that they’re hateful because they aren’t comfortable with themselves and their own insecurities fuel their hatefulness.

And leaving the comment anonymously just shows that they are a coward.

Amy Beth, I know how sick you’ve been from reading this blog. I know how hard you’ve been working at a healthy lifestyle from reading this blog. While pregnant with Mitchell I gained 100 lbs due to the doses of steroids I was given for many problems I was having. 3 years later I still have 60 lbs to lose. I know what it is like to have a medical condition that causes weight gain and for people to be so shallow and hateful that they might not even consider it.

I thought you look absolutely beautiful in that wedding. And I think you are absolutely beautiful EVERY day.

XOXOXOXO

Comment from Kim H.
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:55 am

Wow… people are just horrible sometimes. I’ve had people attack me on my blog as anonymous commenters as well – and it’s cowards like that who make the word hard to live in sometimes. They are the very people that will attack you for things they assume to be true – without taking into account that not ALL overweight people are that way because of laziness or overeating. Those assumptions ROYALLY tick me off.

I hope that you don’t let their mean-spirited comment get to you too deeply… I know it’s hard to let it go, but just realize that they are the coward and they are the leech on the population. THEY have a problem that no one can fix… because my friend – you are beautiful – and they are just disgusting.

Comment from Eyvonne
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:56 am

Very brave post. Beautifully written. I heard this listening to Stuart McAlister on my iPod the other day and it’s stuck with me ever since:

We now live in a world where value is defined by looking good and feeling good, instead of being good and doing good.

Continue to do good and be good, sister. And remember 1 Peter 3:3-4.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”

Comment from Beth Paulsen
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:59 am

you always amaze me. always. even in your response you are so brutally open and honest you amaze me. your response was what so many girls/women needed to hear today. really God uses you when you aren’t even trying. thanks for being the amazingly unique and BEAUTIFUL person that you are. I only wish there were more pics of you on the blog. more. more that you can learn to love too. weight does not define you. I struggle daily with my mind trying to tell me that weight DOES define a part of who I am. but it doesn’t. sure you can say that my weight tells people something about me… but I am sure that there are way fewer thoughts about my weight by others that I let myself imagine. way.

Comment from Sarah@ Life in the Parsonage
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:01 am

Amy Beth, girl… you know how much I adore you…don’t you? Your maturity shown in this post astounds me. Even when wounded you lay your heart bear, and I look into purchasing taser guns Every time I open this blog I learn something from you. I smile, I cry, but most of all….I admire.

I wish I could take away the struggle for you. I wish I could open your eyes so that you could see the beauty that is you…both inside and out.

I’m kicking myself, because I didn’t comment when I looked through that wedding post you did and LOVED that you put a picture with you in it (finally because you ROCKED that dress! You’re beautiful. Period.

Love you.

Comment from Shelly W.
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:12 am

All I can think of is the verse that says, “Man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” I have a feeling that when God looks at that commenter’s heart, what He sees is UG-LY.

Comment from MacKenzie
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:21 am

I have been reading for a long time but I’m not sure I have ever commented. I just wanted to tell you how much God uses you to touch my life. I’m a 24 year old “adult” woman and in some ways our lives are very different but in many, they are so similar and so many days have I read your posts and felt like they went straight from God to me. I have been blessed by your allowing God to shine through you. To see that despite the hurts and pain you feel, you feel love for God, others and life even more. Thanks you for all that you do.

PS ~ I love the polka dots!

Comment from stephanie
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:22 am

Oh Amy Beth! I feel like I want to write two parts to this comment

1) The ugly defensive part to stick up for my “friend”
2) The encouraging part to my “friend”

There are many words to go with part 1, but I will skip it…

Amy Beth, I don’t even know you but I can tell through your blog just how special of a person that you are. I know that if I ever did meet you that I would be in awe of you, plus I would probably be laughing so hard because girl, you crack me up!

I know those words hurt you! I also know that no matter how many kind things that we say, those words are still going to stick to your heart. (I wish I could change that for you.)

I also want to tell you that you are beautiful on the inside and the out. It doesn’t matter what a scale says, or what the tag of your jeans says!

(I do have to say, I feel the same way that you do about those numbers. If my husband or mom saw me writing those words they would tell me to read them again!)

But back to you ~ I hope that you will continue to “be you” on your blog. Because I know that it doesn’t matter what you look like, how old you are, where you are from, what job you have, if you have (super cute) polka dots on your blog…. YOU are FABULOUS!

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Comment from Carrie
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:32 am

Amy Beth,

I think the most wonderful aspect of the blogosphere is that we have an outlet to express who we are. I love coming over to your blog and seeing your pink and polka-dots because that is your personality. I love that you are willing to put your life out there for everyone to read, even people you know. You have some of the deepest, most thought provoking posts of anyone I read. And then you throw funny stories in there as well. You’re human and I think your blog reflects a very realistic pictures of who I imagine you to be. When I woke up in the middle of the night and read your post my heart broke into a million pieces because someone wrote something hateful about who you are. I applaud your ability to stand up for yourself and again to show the real you and how you struggle internally. Keep your chin up. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Comment from abby
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:33 am

All of these ladies have already said what I’m feeling for you. Know that you are being prayed over… You are such an inspiration to so many. We love you AB!

Comment from Michelle
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:54 am

My goodness me!

I really have no words. I can’t believe someone would write that. That a grown human being would be so utterly careless with what they write. I have no idea what could compel a person to say such a thing.

Your post made me cry. You know why.
Lots of love xox

Comment from Lesley
Time: June 17, 2009, 11:02 am

I too have been reading your blog for sometime now…not because I know you in real life or have ever met you but rather because I enjoy the zest for life that you display through your blog. Not all your posts are frilly and lovely but they are soooo real (both good, bad, happy, sad)! I have lived so many of your trials and have felt your feelings so thank you for letting me know I’m not alone. Please, please continue to share, I honestly look forward to seeing what you’ve been up to.
On another note, it really bothers me when people post anonymously…and I can’t help but assume they are cowards for not owning their own thoughts. I say “take it with a grain of salt” although I know it’s much harder to do.

Comment from Theresa
Time: June 17, 2009, 11:22 am

Just know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and everything everyone else has said, I second that!! You are an amazing person, inside and out!! And I love you for being exactly who you are! Dont change!!!

Comment from kaitlyn
Time: June 17, 2009, 11:25 am

Oh, these are the times it’s hard to take the high road and not say mean things.

You are one of the most beautiful women I know, inside and out. You touch lvies and minister to people in powerful ways I can’t begin to imagine. You’re honest and truthful– and wonderful. Please do not let this person take any small part of your joy.

Even if you don’t believe me — God thinks you’re beautiful and perfect. You can argue with Him, but you’ll lose.

Comment from lisa
Time: June 17, 2009, 11:37 am

First of all…BIG HUGS to you! Don’t let people that post comments like that get you down…you are beautiful! I started reading your blog over a year ago and enjoy it so much…when I first saw your picture, I saw myself..well my younger self, I am 37 now, but I swear we could be sisters!
I know it is hard to ignore a comment like that, but don’t give someone like that any space in you life, they don’t deserve it. Sending out lots of love to you…Lisa

Comment from Tammie
Time: June 17, 2009, 11:40 am

You, Amy Beth, are a class act. I know it will not soothe the pain when I tell you that I HONESTLY thought you were the most beautiful lady in the picture, bar none, even the beautiful bride. Because you so rarely post your own picture, I was even a bit surprised to see just what a beauty you are physically. (Not that I thought you were ugly, but wow.) I was telling a friend about your blog the other day and commenting on what a superb job you are doing of dealing with life RIGHT NOW. As I’ve told you in a previous comment, I am almost 50, and I wish I’d had what you have at 24. If I had, I can almost promise that I wouldn’t have allowed the situations of life to cheat me out of so much–ultimately cheating myself. Your possibilities are endless–the only limits being the limits of our huge God (in other words, none). I’ve never met you and know you only from your blog, but I am proud to call you my little sister in Christ (or perhaps my big sister in some areas). All you need to do is keep living. Do not let anyone convince you that your body, just as it is lovingly cared for by you, isn’t PERFECT for you. Do not give up!!!!!! Years down the road, the end result of that will not be acceptable for you. I commit to praying for you regularly as you journey. Take gentle care of yourself. And, if you’re ever in Nashville and have any down time, I’d love to talk to you. You are impacting my life RIGHT NOW.

Comment from kat
Time: June 17, 2009, 11:44 am

I have similar issues with a wedding I’m in this summer. Thanks for sharing. You are beautiful.

Comment from Cosmos
Time: June 17, 2009, 12:21 pm

Ok, I gotta say it: that person was a d**che bag. Sorry. It’s true. There’s just no need for negativity and visciousness like that. Completely unnecessary. Last night I actually had my first needlessly negative comment as well saying I was selfish, what I said was a waste of time and that I should get over myself and my blog. Apparently, this angry person doesn’t get my sense of humor in the same way your commenter doesn’t get what’s going on in reality. Hang in there! You handled it beautifully.

Comment from Mocha with Linda
Time: June 17, 2009, 12:22 pm

I wish I could give you a hug right now. Except I think I would have to stand in quite a line!

Remember these verses: “count yourselves blessed every time people put you down or throw you out or speak lies about you to discredit me. What it means is that the truth is too close for comfort and they are uncomfortable. You can be glad when that happens—give a cheer, even!—for though they don’t like it, I do! And all heaven applauds. And know that you are in good company. My prophets and witnesses have always gotten into this kind of trouble.” (Matthew 5:11-12, The Message)

Your commenter from Cleveland and the other anonymous commenter are hurting and lashing out, maybe in jealousy, maybe for some other reason. I’ll leave them to God to work in their hearts and lives.

When I read this blog, I see a beautiful, passionate, fun gal who loves to laugh, but is not afraid to cry. Who longs to serve God with everything she has. Even when that means she gets some scars. A gal who loves with her entire being the ones to whom she ministers to, her friends, the precious children in her life. Loves in spite of the risk that comes with that love, which is that the very heart that feels such tenderness and affection is also vulnerable to hurt. Don’t let this stop you from loving. If the cross had halted Christ’s love, we would be beyond despair.

I ache for all you have experienced, and for all you have not experienced that your heart so longs for. But remember that the very beautiful hairs of your magnificently coifed head are numbered and special to the One Who knit you together in your mother’s womb and Who ordained all your days before one of them came to be.

You are beautiful inside and out, Amy Beth. And don’t you forget it.

I love you, my bloggy friend!

Comment from mandy
Time: June 17, 2009, 12:26 pm

I’ve sort of been gone from the internet world for awhile. I come back to your blog & find this?

I guess the internet is a good outlet for those who are passive aggressive. They can leave comments & not stake a claim on them.

I adore you. I’m proud of you. Not sure what else to say…

Comment from Leslie
Time: June 17, 2009, 12:28 pm

Amy Beth, I was absolutely livid when I read the cruel and cowardly words written by Anonymous. You are correct in saying that hurting people hurt people. So maybe Anonymous is hurting in a huge way. But I wouldn’t be at all surprised if their issues went beyond simple hurt. You don’t need to open yourself up to that, so please don’t let this person drag you into any more confrontations, anonymous or otherwise. That wouldn’t be healthy for anybody involved. Being willing to forgive someone and pray for them does not mean that you need to subject yourself to their cruelty.

And to address some specific “issues”:
- I’m less than two months from my 35th birthday, a very serious person (I’m an engineer, which pretty much says it all), and I love your blog. It’s cute and fun. Isn’t that how we all want our personal blogs to be? And you do a great job of balancing the serious and the silly. DON’T CHANGE A THING!
- I’m nine months pregnant, so accidentally peeing on myself has become a way of life. And from what I hear that doesn’t change all that much after having the baby. Which means that probably half the women in the world have experienced this at least once. So you’re in good company. That’s what makes it so funny – we’ve all done it and it’s good to hear that someone else has done it, too!
- Don’t feel bad about not fitting into a Junior dress. The only people that should be shopping in the Junior department are teenagers, anyway, because those clothes are made to fit bodies that are just beginning to develop into womanhood. That’s why they have their own section of the store and why they’re sized differently.
- Here’s some verses that I’ve prayed for myself and for people I love that have had things said against them: “Let me not be put to shame, O LORD, for I have cried out to you; but let the wicked be put to shame and lie silent in the grave. Let their lying lips be silenced, for with pride and contempt they speak arrogantly against the righteous.” (Psalm 31:17-18)
- Bottom line – Amy Beth, you are a precious woman of God. If I ever met you I’m sure you’d be one of my favorite people.

Comment from Rachel
Time: June 17, 2009, 12:54 pm

Oh, Amy Beth.

I saw your comment on FB but at that point had not come over here to see what was said (knowing your comment policy, i figured you had already deleted it).

I read Anon’s comments to you and for the first time in a long time I wanted to scream a bunch of curse words at the monitor. I tell you, it’s taking a lot for me to pray for this person because I am so angry at how they treated you.

DO NOT listen to them. DO NOT believe them. It seems like they are only in it to make you feel bad and get a reaction out of you.

This post broke my heart. It literally made me cry.

Thank you for being so open but you know what? You don’t OWE anyone anything. Regardless of whether you had a medical problem or were overweight from bad choices, you don’t have to explain yourself to ANYONE because you are BEAUTIFUL!!!! – inside and OUT!

Here is the honest-to-goodness truth: the other day when we became friends on FB I looked through your pics because I wanted to see your face (we see so little on the blog). I was stunned – STUNNED – at what a gorgeous young woman you are. And I almost left you a comment telling you you should post more pics of your beautiful self on your blog, but I refrained because I remembered reading in an old post how someone had said something ugly to you about a picture, so I didn’t know if it would be appropriate for me to say that.

Now I wish I had said it, and I stand by it: not only is your heart amazingly beautiful, but you are outwardly beautiful too. And you should be proud of it and not let the jerks (I’d love to use a stronger word there, but because this is family friendly I won’t ) make you feel like you have to hide.

(And honey, I haven’t seen the juniors department since my college days either, so don’t feel bad!)

Just know that we all love you and are praying for you!!!

Comment from hannah
Time: June 17, 2009, 1:05 pm

i bet the person who made that comment feels awful about their own looks and is projecting their hurt on you… you probably know all too well how that works, having worked with girls of all ages.

hang in there – this too will pass. you know that your creator loves you and made you in his/her image.

Comment from amykay
Time: June 17, 2009, 1:33 pm

i am going to reign in my sarcasm, even though it wants to come out in a major way.

just know that you are beautiful and loved and a much more grace-filled person than many of us– especially this girl!

Comment from Laci
Time: June 17, 2009, 1:35 pm

You are beautiful.

Comment from Amy
Time: June 17, 2009, 1:58 pm

Amy Beth….I stumbled across your blog a few months ago and it has been nothing but a gift from God for me….we recently moved to a new town and I am so far away from my friends – the move has been, at best, very difficult. My husband watched me reading your blog the other day and he asked who you were…I had to tell him my “imaginary friend”….imaginary because you don’t know me, but I have come to adore you! I have tears in my eyes because someone hurt you….I don’t know you past your blog, but I do know that you are my sister in Christ, a beautiful child of God….

Amy

Comment from seanie-bear
Time: June 17, 2009, 2:36 pm

amy beth…

hunny, you are the BEST KIND of beautiful… and don’t let anybody (anonymous or otherwise) tell you any different.

God’s choice blessings to you!

Comment from BC
Time: June 17, 2009, 2:49 pm

Grrr…good thing there’s this internet between me and this anonymous commenter. If only I could smack them on the side of the head. Really hard. Oh, I guess that’s not very nice!

Everyone has pretty much said what I want to say. But I just had to write something to let you know…YOU ARE AMAZING!!!

Comment from Leslie Lauren
Time: June 17, 2009, 3:17 pm

AmyBeth,

The nice, sweet side of me wants to hug you and cry with you and tell you how wonderfully, incredibly, amazing you are.

The not-so-nice side of me wants to punch Mr. Anonymous in the face and ask if he likes how that feels.

You’re amazing~ don’t let anyone take that away from you.

Comment from Leslie Lauren
Time: June 17, 2009, 3:19 pm

PS: Wow, it looks like me and BC need to hang out (I promise I didn’t read anyone else’s comments before responding!)

Comment from Kathy
Time: June 17, 2009, 4:30 pm

Oh Darlin, I read your blog pretty much everyday from Australia, and although our worlds (and lives) are poles apart, I’m on your journey with you!

I’m glad that you wrote this reply and be assured that you did it so well. It was a gracious and dignified reply to a hurful and unecessary comment.

Everyone has already said so many supportive things and I want to add my support to them but I do want to speak to a couple of points…I just ADORE the way you write Amy Beth! Please do not change because of one idiot who is wrong.

Also you just are gorgeous…I’m not trying to make you feel better…you just are!

I don’t actually think that their opinion is in any way relevant but I know that knowing that wont stop your hurt. Please rest in God’s love and his promises.

Comment from ScribblesNZ
Time: June 17, 2009, 5:05 pm

My goodness, Amy Beth, you could have been writing my own story. Battles with PCOS and lactose intolerance have zapped the gorgeous figure that I used to have and it is a constant battle to get back there. People have used my weight as a point to bring me down on and it is sooooo hard to consider it their problem rather than my own. The one thing that has helped me through is that age-old adage “You don’t need to blow out my candle to make yours glow brighter” – I turn pity on them for the environment that they have grown up in that makes them feel that kind of attitude is okay.
May your candle glow bright Amy Beth!

Comment from brittany
Time: June 17, 2009, 5:54 pm

I’ve said it before. You rock, Amy Beth. I thought you looked beautiful at the wedding and wanted to see a better picture. It’s sad when someone is so bitter that they have to make up reason’s to attack someone anonomously.

Comment from Jennifer
Time: June 17, 2009, 5:57 pm

You don’t know me, but I LOVE your blog. Your stories are hilarious, and your insights are so deep. This post and the comments that follow is just proof of how God is using your writing and your heart to touch others. It’s no fun when hurting people feel like they have to hurt someone else to feel better… but you really took the high road. I’m praising God for your words and witness right now!

Comment from Kellye
Time: June 17, 2009, 5:57 pm

Don’t you forget for one second that God read/saw/heard how you, the Apple of HIS Eye, was treated. He does not like it one bit and He will handle this!

Comment from Lisa @ The PW
Time: June 17, 2009, 6:41 pm

Sweet AB,

I’ve been so absent from blogland but heard about this little ‘matter’ through our mutual friends so I felt compelled to run straight over and say I LOVE YOU! Girlfriend, in the dead of night when no one is around, I would dare speculate these girls spewing hate are empty. Black and empty. Wishing they had what you have. Wondering where your joy comes from. Marvelling over the number of women here who would go TO THE MAT – and lo, even cuss (whoot, whoot Presby MISSY!!) – for you at any given moment.

Greater is He that is in you, than she that is in the world.

You are gorgeous. You are loved. You are above this. And you responded beautifully – no surprises there.

Keep smiling, darlin’ girl!

Comment from Antanette
Time: June 17, 2009, 7:43 pm

Oh AB,

So I just got finished responding to the other post when I saw this…It makes me wonder just for a minute what kind of animal…cruel, cruel mamal would do and say such a thing. Your response to this person in a word REMARKABLE.
I know what it is to be told that you are fat, and no one likes fat girls and on and on…but you know something, you aint fat and as they say down here in The Bahamas you are juicy and voluptious…YEAH thats right and not only that you are EDUCATED!!!!! well educated. You know where you are in life and I do believe you know what you want in life. As for the anon commenters… God Bless you yeah let His love saturate the depths of your hurt and wounded heart, may you understand what it is to have a RELATIONSHIP with Him (because AB’s postings show that she does) may He heal and peal away every wounded peice of your heart.
Much Love AB.

Comment from Beth
Time: June 17, 2009, 7:59 pm

AB,

I haven’t read my blog list lately but saw your comment on FB and had to come and see what was going on.

All I want to say to you is this:

AB, you are beautiful inside and out and don’t you ever doubt that. I’ve been where you are. I suffer from PCOS, Metabolic Syndrome, infertility and gained almost 100 lbs. in the last few years all while trying to get my drs. to find out what was wrong with me. My self-esteem was shot, I hated how I looked and as far as people taking pictures of me, forget it! After all these years I have finally found the one doctor who ran the right tests and have now lost 70lbs. in the last 9 months. I have 20 more to lose. It wasn’t only my physical problems that were keeping me overweight, it was my mental ones too. I’m finally liking who I am again.

Woman who suffer like we have read your words on this blog and find inspiration. We hold each other up and you help us realize we are not alone.

You keep smiling, with your polka dots and heart-shaped sunglasses and know that we are smiling right along with you.

Comment from Courtney
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:21 pm

Amy Beth,
When you posted all of the snapshots over the weekend of the wedding, Sheyna and I both commented on how beautiful you looked and how we wish we had your teeth and hair! (We were referencing the picture you took up close to show us your hair). As a womann with PCOS, I am beginning to lose some of mine so I was quite covetous. I will admit to you now that I read this post around 6am this morning I believe, (I was in California so it was 3am their time) and I woke my husband up yelling and reading it to him. I said some not nice things. Then I remembered that I was a christian. Please, please, please rise above it. Don’t change an ounce of who you are! You are the girl that loves polka dots, and loves to touch people and minister to them more than you will ever know in your posts. Sheyna, Amber, and I often admit that we would love to be best friends with you. Please don’t let this person, who is obviously hurting, get the best of you. Lay it all at God’s feet and He will handle the rest.
Holding you in prayer,
Courtney

Comment from Lacey
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:38 pm

Bless your heart. Some people really are just mean to be mean. I think you are beautiful! And I’m not just saying that. Your writing is always straight to the heart – sometimes it’s the simpliest format, but it takes my breath away & truly makes me think. A rare & precious gift. The man God has made just for you will see that beauty too. And not only will he think your writing is a rare & precious gift, but he will think that of you, Amy Beth, even when you don’t say a word. On top of all that goodness, you remind me of my sister. She died 2 years ago. She was just 21 years old. And I miss that girl more than words can say. You truly are a blessing. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Hugs,
Lacey (AL)

Comment from Sarah
Time: June 17, 2009, 8:40 pm

So many of us here to love you and love on you and yet no matter what we say, your heart hurts, your stomach is twisted in knots and you can’t get the hurt to go away.

I am sorry sweet friend, for the pain that’s been inflicted on you. On vacation! You are loved and you are prayed for.

Enjoy the rest of your vacation!

Comment from rachel h
Time: June 17, 2009, 9:59 pm

Hi Amy Beth. I’m so sorry that person said what she did. Mostly because out of the throng of people who love you, the criticism is what we tend to hear the loudest. Never forget you have an audience of One and He is completely smitten. Chin up Sweet Sister.

Comment from Dawn @ Wherever He Leads
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:45 pm

It makes me so sad that someone would take time out of their day to make such awful comments to you. There is just no reason for that kind of cruelty! That person is wounded and lost and apparently feels the need to inflict pain on others. I am so sorry. I know that those negative comments can stay with you for a long time and I wish that I could take them away – erase them from your memory. Just know this – you are amazing! You are a beautiful woman who has been created by an sovereign God. He made you exactly the way that He intended you to be. He is using you in an incredible way to touch so many people. You can do things for His kingdom that no one else can. Praying for you…and the anonymous commenter as well.

Comment from Melanie
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:49 pm

Dear Amy Beth,

I love reading your blog, and I want to say that I was floored to read this post. I hate that somebody would go out of their way to be so needlessly hurtful to somebody else. Unfortunately, cowardly people have the internet to hide behind, and can be buttholes without fear of reprisal. (“buttholes” – I’m such a grownup.) It’s sad, but it’s true. Furthermore, you looked lovely at that wedding; I saw the pic of you and the other bridesmaids. And I know exactly how you feel. I was one of the prettiest girls at my high school; not braggin’, just sayin’. (I was also a very nice Christian girl who tried to be kind to everybody.) Junior year I started going blind and began taking massive amounts of prednisone. I gained 50 pounds, grew a beard, and my face became so swollen I was completely unrecognizable. ON TOP OF LOSING MY EYESIGHT. I couldn’t believe how much joy some people took in my pain, often people I’d gone out of my way to be nice to. I know that the comment has wounded you to the bone; but please hear me when I say that you are a beautiful, beautiful girl and God has a great plan for your life. Hang in there! I’ll say an extra prayer for you.

Comment from Katie Mac
Time: June 17, 2009, 10:49 pm

Amy Beth, others have said it already, but when I saw this I just had to comment. Your blog (and you) are such an inspiration. I read the first few lines of this post and I was furious and sad at the same time. Like others, I read the wedding post, and loved each picture you posted – disappointed when your picture was small (although I could still make out your hair height!) I was recently a bridesmaid and asked to wear a strapless dress when I am plus-sized. I am very self-conscious and can’t imagine the courage it takes to post a picture much less talk about your own feelings and insecurities while sharing God’s love. Anyone reading your blog knows 1) you have a great perspective on life, and 2) you know how to share this in writing.

I feel a lot less alone when I stop by and read about some of the same things I struggle with. God is using you. I pray that this outpouring of responses helps lessen the sting of that incredibly cruel comment. You are the spirit of Christ through your wonderful testimony.

Comment from Melissa
Time: June 17, 2009, 11:07 pm

I found your blog by accident…and have thoroughly enjoyed it! I am a 33 year old woman, married for 2 years now (so worth the wait! But I know the waiting is hard.). I love your blog, love your wit and words, love your honesty and transparency! So please keep it up! Makes me smile as I remember my (many) post college single days and fun with roommates and roadtrips and LOTS of talks of boys and marriage. Praying for you tonight.

Comment from Shara
Time: June 17, 2009, 11:23 pm

That comment the well known statement “hurting people hurt people” seem even more accurate. I hope we can all take a moment or two to pray that God heals whatever is hurting in them.

Comment from cara maggie
Time: June 18, 2009, 12:14 am

My dear darling ABB,

Two passages of scripture come immediately to mind, both from the days of yore. In 2 Kings 2:23-25, Elisha is made fun for being bald and calls down, um, bears from heaven upon his mockers. 42 of the jeerers were mauled and his lack of locks was never mocked again. Our Lord does not smile upon common cruelties.

Secondly, my boy Elijah was exhausted and discouraged when he crawled into a cave and God invited him to experience his presence. 1 Kings 19:11-12 reads, “Then a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake came a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire. And after the fire came a gentle whisper.”

May you hear His still, small voice through the torrent. You are so loved, and so worthy of it.

Your cupcake Cara Maggie

Comment from Meredith
Time: June 18, 2009, 6:44 am

Hi,
I have been reading your blog for awhile now, and have never commented. I am a “grown-up” if you will. 30, married, 2 little boys, an attorney but stay at home mom, etc….and I love your blog. Two observations: (i) Your blog is anything but childish–it is insightful, spiritual, youthful, fun, and inspiring. (ii) Your honesty about subjects so near and dear to you are why you have so many readers. There are so many of us who RELATE to you–your struggles, your success, your crossroads. Your writing style makes it fun to go on the journey with you. It also helps people read and think about difficult things–because sometimes you write about these difficult experiences tongue and cheek. Brilliant tactic, by the way. I will not write my thoughts about the mean-spirited comments as they deserve no spotlight….

BLESS you and your blog. I heart pink and polka dots.
Meredith

Comment from chris
Time: June 18, 2009, 10:22 am

i was at the wedding and thought you looked beautiful. (don’t tell jenn)

and as for my thoughts toward anonymous comment person… well they aren’t so Christ-like so I’ll keep them to myself.

Comment from Debbie
Time: June 18, 2009, 12:22 pm

You are beautiful, the people who matter can read it in your words!

We’re praying for you!

Comment from Bethany
Time: June 18, 2009, 2:04 pm

Shake the dust from your sandals Amy Beth… and move on. They aren’t worth it.

And BTW, I’m 31 years old and a mother of four with all the joys and responsibilities that come along with it. Sometimes I am sick to death of having to be a serious grown-up all the time. Be as young as you want to be AB. You don’t get to go back later.

Comment from jmom@lotsofscotts
Time: June 18, 2009, 2:22 pm

So sorry, AB. This is part of the sacrifice of ministry…when you put yourself out there, some people will seize the opportunity to be hurtful. Don’t let that person be the cause of our holding back the great gift you are to hundreds more.

“Love anyway.”

Comment from Rachelle
Time: June 18, 2009, 2:27 pm

i love your blog, Amy Beth, every time i read a post i come away blessed.

Comment from Autumn
Time: June 18, 2009, 2:47 pm

Your blog is an inspiration to me every time I read it. And a good laugh from time to time! I know words are painful, but you are SO much more than one person’s opinion of you. Hold your head high and rest in the knowledge that you are a child of God… beautiful inside AND out!

Comment from Denice
Time: June 18, 2009, 3:14 pm

1. LOVE your blog!
2. LOVE you, even thought I don’t know you in real life. You are definitely someone I would want to be friends with, if you would be friends with an old 44 year old woman! Let’s just say I have some friends and some stories that I think you could relate to…
3. Peeing your pants stories never get old! I feel sorry for people who don’t have friends that make them laugh so hard they pee their pants. They just haven’t lived the good life!
4. Feel sorry for people who don’t like themselves and have to put others down to make themselves feel superior. VERY UNATTRACTIVE TO REAL MEN, by the way!

Keep your chin up and keep looking up to the One who really matters!

Comment from SarahRuth
Time: June 18, 2009, 4:15 pm

Dear Cruel Blogger:

I bet you don’t how many nights AB has stayed up with girls from her ministry, praying, interceding, and giving her life away for them.

I bet you don’t know how often she is praised for her inner and OUTER beauty.

I bet you don’t know how ridiculously unlucky you are to not be able to stand closer to this gifted, amazing woman of God.

AMY BETH, I love you. I stand in awe of who you are and the beauty you possess surpasses that of a thousand women our age.

Comment from Leslie
Time: June 18, 2009, 7:59 pm

Mean girls.
Sheesh.
Makes this mama want to yank someone baldheaded, but your response displayed grace and wisdom beyond your years. Keep being you – that’s your calling!

Comment from k&c’s mom
Time: June 18, 2009, 10:43 pm

Had to come back and see how you were doing. Man. These comments are encouraging ME, Amy Beth! Hope this puts perspective in front of you. There is an army of faithful bloggers out there apparently ready to rise to your defense! So glad to see that.

Comment from Erika
Time: June 19, 2009, 6:34 am

Wow. People are MEAN. I think it’s obvious by all of the comments, that no one agrees with that cruel commenter. You are an encouragement and an inspiration to all of us. The bigger difference you make, the more people are going to try to take you down. It’s a sad truth….you are really making an impact on so many. Take all of the positive comments (and there’s a lot of them!) to heart. God bless.

Comment from KAT
Time: June 19, 2009, 11:50 am

Amy Beth,
YOU and YOUR BLOG are both absolutely fabulous. I have no idea why people are so unkind. Keep up the great work!

Comment from Bethany
Time: June 19, 2009, 2:06 pm

Amy Beth, I’ve been a faithful reader for a year or so now, and thoroughly enjoy every post you type. Your posts make me glad there is someone in the same place in life as me, they make me think more than I ever imagined a blog would. The hysterical ones make me laugh out loud, the sadder, more intense ones make me cry. I don’t always comment, but I do read. You are loved by the bloggy world, even though most of us haven’t ever met you in person. You *shine* for Jesus and I love it

Also, I’m so sorry someone is at such a low place in their life they felt it warranted leaving such a hateful comment on your blog. I will be praying for them…

Comment from Samantha
Time: June 20, 2009, 9:56 am

Amy Beth,
I am so sorry that someone was so cruel to you on your wonderful, uplifting, inspiring blog. I know I am a total stranger, but I read your blog every day and I adore it. And you! I think you are wonderful. You’re a great writer, you’re funny, and you’re a beautiful person. The way you have handled this situation makes me want to be a gentler person in my life. I would not have handled it with the grace you have handled it with. I will be praying that this person’s words do not stay with you for long.

Comment from Knittinchick
Time: July 12, 2009, 1:27 pm

My cousin Happy Geek told me about your blog, especially this post … and am I ever happy that she did. I LOVE how you responded.

Man alive, you remind me of myself ten years ago at 24. I worked in a faith-based community for 10 wonderful years and am taking a break right now to get better and expand my horizons. Interesting times about what I am learning about myself-not all perfect-but thankfully I have a perfect God!

I wore pigtails to work the other day (I work in fundraising…not typical) for a theme day and everyone rolled their eyes and me and then started laughing. It was worth it!!!! I’ll have to try your ideas of the side ponytail-it might be equally successful!